“Fake it till you make it”
Have you ever been at the receiving end of this advice? Or perhaps you’re already a seasoned exponent of it? Should we “fake it” or should we not?
I’ve personally heard my fair share of both supporting and opposing sets of views.
Before we conclude on a should or should not answer, it’s important that we ask ourselves more questions. What are we faking? What’s the purpose of faking? Who are we faking to?
If your contemplation is to satisfy your inferior complexity due to your low levels of serotonin, then even though “faking till you make it” may boost your satisfaction at that moment, it will make you feel worse in the long run.
Or maybe you are working in a sales environment and your boss told you that you need to fake it till you make it. If it’s part of the job criteria to do so, then you may want to analyze your career goals. No doubt faking, or putting on a successful facade, may be necessary in many jobs, we must also question ourselves what is the degree of faking we need to comply. Will anyone be adversely affected by our faking. Are the trade-offs worth it? If you detect hesitations in your answers to those questions, perhaps more convincing is required.
But there’s one instance where faking till you make it is acceptable. That is faking positivity if you’re constantly shrouded with negativity. The reason is because faking positivity is better than no positivity. Faking positivity when one is negative or devoid of any positivity will, one day, begets real positivity. However, while faking it, it is even more important that we actively take actions to remove the negativity in us and to attract real positivity.