Nowadays, People get angry over everything. In fact, it feels like people are constantly looking for things to get angry about.
Why is anger present? Anger is a feeling. It is a tool given to us. But just like a sword, if we are clumsy of how to use it, it may harm us more than it can protect us.
Someone may bump against our shoulders during rush hour. Another person may steal our parking lot. And immediately, the anger in us starts to boil. Maybe that person has an emergency to attend to? Give them the benefit of the doubt. Find the grace and magnitude in ourselves to forgive others.
Never allow anger to manifest in our mind and body. Uncontrolled, they’ll turn into violence and violence will lead to more undesirable outcomes. Being constantly angry affects us physically. It increases our blood pressure which leads to health problems like stroke and heart attack. It affects our day in the office adversely. It affects our sleep quality at night. It may even affect our relationships with our family and friends.
When we are prone to anger, we are actually in a vulnerable state. We may see angry people as brave. But actually, they are in a extremely weak mental state. When we are being confrontational all the time, we succumb the controls of our feelings to the people, or things, that makes us angry.
Since young, I never understood how could those grandmasters in kungfu movies be so calm in the face of even the worst calamities. Now, I do. Being angry in angry situations is easy and doesn’t require much strength. On the other hand, being calm in angry situations requires much experience, wisdom and self-control.
So, learn to let go of anger. Control anger, not letting anger control us. Take a deep breath when we encounter a potentially angry situation. Or even better, avoid these situations. Walk away from anger. Suppress anger. Meditate. Sleep through anger. Let time be your best friend in times of anger.
Most of the time, as time passes, you’ll realize how small the issue really was in the first place.